actualhawke:

i hate when cis/straight people complain when an lgbt person comes out of the closet and then dismiss it as “i don’t come out as straight so quit rubbing it in my face” like??? no shit you don’t have to “come out as straight” when your identity is assumed default and there isn’t a long a history of oppression behind it???

coming out is one of the hardest things an lgbt person can do, and when we do come out we risk losing people we love, financial support, and possibly jobs (it’s perfectly legal in my state to discriminate against lgbt people for job opportunities). like it’s such a huge gamble to officially come out to people, and it’s a process that never really stops because you have to make the conscious decision every time someone comes into your life whether or not to tell them and you never know how they’re going to react. and that is absolutely terrifying.

so tl;dr cishet people stop demeaning lgbt people for coming out because you personally find it “annoying” or “inconvenient” because it’s not about you.